Men and Clubs

Sundays have become a rituals between me and my two close friends. Every Sunday we go to Pepper Lounge and hang out and run into old friends and just be on chill mode. We don't get dressed...just be on chill mode. Chill mode to us is pair of jeans some simple shirt and a pair of heels.....hell I have even done flat shoes. When I go out to the club regardless of where I go.....I don't go to attract men....I go to have fun with my girls. This past Sunday we continued about our Sunday rituals. We went to Pepper Lounge to start the night off and ran into a bunch of old faces. Had a good time like always. After Pepper we weren't ready to go home even after one of our good friends locked the keys inside of the car. We wait for Triple A for an hour. After wait in the cold for about an hour the Triple A man finally got the car unlocked and we all hopped in and was on our way. Ready for some more action we decided to cross that bridge and head to the Oz......





and this is where I want to pause. So many people in St Louis have a negative view of everything east of the Mississippi river. I wanna start by saying......East St Louis is NOT the only city in Southern Illinois....sure it is the first thing you cross when you come across the bring. But if you were not to be so ignorant and pull out a map and see what else is located beyond East St Louis. There are wonderful communities like O'fallon, Belleville, Fairview Heights, and others..... If anything St Louis is way more dangerous and about 5 times bigger than the city of East St Louis! Can't be that damn bad if they have a damn casino in the heart of the city and WHITE PEOPLE GO THERE!!! Yea ...think about that one.



But to continue on the events that happen on this night....



We arrived at the Oz. It was me, two girls, and guy. When we got there we chatted it up with a couple of folks and then we headed to the opposite side of the club to find a seat. We continued chatting it up with several folks. After that my friend had notice a group of guy sitting behind us, and one of the guys in this group was throwing items(ice,paper, and cups) to get our attention. We continued to ignore him. He then proceeded to get up and walk over to us. We made several comments such as "Really you are going to throw stuff at us to get our attention and then attempt to talk to use?". We said nothing vulgar or out of place. As we began to walk away he started to call us "Bitch" and everything else in the book. This is when I snapped. That was completely uncalled for and disrespectful. I turned around, got in his face, and simply let him know how out of line he was.....at this point my two girls were witnessing me getting into it with this guy. My friend went and grabbed a security guard. They then proceeded to kick him out. After that we all were pissed.....about 10 minutes passed and we were still upset so we decided to leave. When we walked out the exit door his was about to get in his vehicle and he continued cussing us out.



We walked to our car and attempted to continue ignoring his ignorance. Once we were all inside my friends truck we heard these loud sounds. No just one....but several. We all ducked out of habit. We turned around and saw the car that they guy had got in earlier drive past us. We all where sitting in the car and telling our self that the noise we hear so loud could not have been gunshots. We all got out and examined the car. There were multiple gunshots in my friends truck. In disbelief we all began crying out of fear. The position inwhich the bullets entered the car anyone of us could have been hit with a bullet that night.



I never thought I WOULD BE IN THIS TYPE OF SITUATION....ever in my life. Is it possible to make someone so mad that they take it upon themselves to use a gun and possibly take SEVERAL peoples' lives over simply not getting any play?



Luckily we don't have situations this extreme when we go to clubs. But this situation for me has changed the way I view going out to clubs and the men in them.



Men!!! ( That was me yelling so I could get all of the men attention!)

We need you to have sense when it comes to women in the club. Don't take offense if she doesn't want to converse with you. Maybe you don't strike her fancy. Nothing against you.....just keep being you....because honestly someone out there is meant for you. Also men......the unspoken rule of the club......JUST BECAUSE YOU BUY A WOMAN A DRINK DOESN'T MEAN YOU OWN HER THE NIGHT. Don't expect anything more than a thank you.

Women!!!!

I need you guys to stop going the club thirsty......yes THIRSTY! Stop going to the club depending on a man to buy you a drink. Try this ladies.....go to the club and purchase your first drink.....make that first drink on yourself. Sometimes if men see you paying for your own drinks they might be a lil more likely to pay for your next one. Try it...see what happens.

Ok I am off my soap box on that one. But at the end of the day I believe the line of courting or dating or hooking up or whatever we call it now a days has been blurred. No one does courting anymore.......it is just .....lets have sex and if it doesn't work out.....on to the next person.


Yes this blog has been random ....sorry if it doesn't make any sense to you...but in my own dazed and krazy world it makes perfect sense

Back From Vegas!!!

*my life*

Sin City was awesome....and no I did not get married ...although I did ponder it.....I still passed on the idea. I left from St Louis on Saturday and came back that following Tuesday. For those who have and have not been to Vegas I can use one phrase to sum up that city: OVER THE TOP.....everything is. We stayed at the Wynn hotel which was beautiful. We were across the street from Fashion Show Mall. And it is named Fashion Show Mall because on the weekend they have Fashion Shows every hours.....I didn't say they were the best but it is entertaining. And through out Vegas I believe there is a Dior, Chanel, and Jimmy Cho store in every mall...SOMETIMES TWO! Yeah walking past those stores made me realize how poor of a college student I am and how fast I need to hurry and graduate and make the big dollars. But at the same time it did challenge me to enhance my diva abilities....if that makes any since. I did live the life of star for a matter of days from room service, limos, fab clothes and shoes, and extravagant partying. It was amazing. But once I left and came home....reality set in..BACK IN ST LOUIS...UHHH!

*love...men....realtionships???*

ON ANOTHER NOTE......right now in my life I am torn......its that whole not being truly satisfied thing. Women help me out......every wished you could have a recipe to form the perfect man........add the history of a long time ex......with the attention you get from your new boy toy.......mixed with looks of the complete air head you just met at the club the other night.....with the intelligence of that geeky boy that sits behind you in your stats class....and P Diddy's money??? Tell me I am no the only one. Seeing that I know you can't change a man I just wish you could take parts of certain men and create a whole new man...a better man???? That is how I feel right now. I want to build the perfect man! Who wants to help in my experiment. LOL.

*fashion*

On to the wonderful world of fashion......

1st off I got to attend one of the fashion shows for St Louis Fashion Week in which my job (Bakers) was a sponsor for.....and it was FAB! I had a blast mixing and mingling with people. Although I did get mad at the lady sitting next to me wearing her Gucci studded boots and Gold Fendi purse.....inside I was screaming "I HATE YOU AND WANT YOUR LIFE!!"....lol....jp. But honestly it was wonderful to be among such fashion savvy people and it truly inspired me to be even more DIVA WONDERFUL.

But on to TWO FAB ITEMS ....I am in love with these new necktie necklaces. They look fab when pair with a basic tank and some of the destroyed boyfriend cut jeans Ms. Parker is rockin in this picture....and of course paired with some fab flats! You too can look like a diva in FLATS....yes it is possible.

Well ladies and gents I am signing off!

Vegas WAS GOOD TO ME!

Diving In.......

So I been thinking about officially blogging since about November of last year. ....but then I felt like I would be like everyone else in the world. Having a blog now a days is like having phone....or like having pet.....ALMOST EVERYONE HAS ONE. So what is going to set my Blog apart from everyone elses??? I HAVE NO IDEA.....I only hope this blog is something you can relate to you, make you laugh, give u some tips on fashion or music, or simply be like "Man....someone else is going through this or been through that?"

With my purpose put in place......ALLOW ME TO INTRODUCE MYSELF:

My name is Dominek.....yeah I know it is a tad bit different of a spelling most are use to. The spelling is not French or Latin.....it is Hoodish (lol just playing...my mother was young)..... It actually mean "of the Lord". This name was traditionally given to a child born on Sunday......yup I was mos def born on a Wednesday...so there goes that one. I am currently 24 and I reside in the St Louis Metro Area. I am student at University of Missouri-St. Louis.......inwhich I might add has a great College of Business in which I will be graduating from this semester ....but the most backwards and wackiest campus life I have ever seen in MY LIFE.....thank goodness I don't go to school to be a social butterfly. I am going to school to obtain a degree in Marketing....and praying that I will be able to JUST BE EMPLOYED after I graduate!

I am a what you call a diva! A modern day hustler. At one point in time I was working two jobs and averaging 50 to 65 hours a week....so when people cried about there 40 hours a week gig. I would just laugh. I was what you call a Jamicain Papa Chasa! But this semester in school has been very difficult....therefore I had to give something up and that something had to be my second job....it was hard....I had to slice my income in half......I NOW KNOW WHAT THE RECESSION FEELS LIKE.....uhh.....it blows. I am STILL a diva......and I am still a hustler. When you see me you will understand ....from the hair ....to the handbags....to the shoes.....to the jewelry....to the outfit....I AM WELL PUT TOGETHER....lol. I take pride in what I look like when I step out my house. And I think all females should look like that too. Look like you have some pride in your appearance....because sadly enough IT IS THE FIRST THING PEOPLE SEE. I am not saying walk around with your make up caked on and heels everyday.....but when you do your casual thing still coordinate and still decent. And I hate the excuse....I AIN'T GOT NO MONEY......took look like a diva U DON'T HAVE TO BE ROCKIN GUCCI....OR TRUE RELIGIONS.....but that will be a whole other blog. But like I said I am a Diva....and I feel so out of place here St Louis.

In have hope of moving and possibly going for my MBA....I wanna be anywhere but here. But my heart is in Chicago. I love that city and if it was a man I would marry it. I just feel so at home when I am there.

I love the feeling of being loved.......I like to think my life is simple....but it isn't. I have the best friends in the world....and we have the most fun doing nothing at times. My family is wonderful even more than half of the time we don't get along......let me retract that statement....more than 75 percent of the time we don't get along....so sad....but so true.

I am currently dating ....but sadly enough I am still hoping my true love comes along and sweeps me off my feet......LETS SIMPLY SAY I AM NEVER SATISFIED...and that is how I have always been and that will probably leave me lonely and single.

Lately my life has been consisting of lots of studying and working about 25 to 3o hours a week. School is constantly RUINING MY LIFE....FAITHFULLY..

I am a lover of music that moves you....speaks to your soul......so I keep Musiq Soulchild in rotation along with a lil Keysha Cole..... a lil Ne Yo......Love LOVE LOVE.....Miss L Boogie......and Robin Thicke....some good ol' blue eyed soul music. I listen to a lil of everything....but trust me in this blog you will discover that.

I am a very random person. I can ....AND I WILL JUMP FROM SUBJECT TO SUBJECT.

Well I think I rambled on about my life enough....I was suppose to be doing some homework for Corporate Finance....but instead I am on.......I gotta save something for the next time or else there wouldn't be a point of blogging.....so till next!